Have a Cookie! Using Rewards in your SM Relationships
Establishing and enforcing a system of rewards and punishments can strengthen a relationship dynamic based in dominance and submission. Learn to identify methods of praising and rewarding each other that are personal and reinforce the values you have set for your relationships. Drawing from personal experience and longtime observations, Laura will discuss the difference between rewards and praise, the importance of consistency and balance, and how to make a little go a long way.
Tops Are From Gor, Bottoms Are From Roissy
We frequently draw our relationship models from fictional universes, forgetting that those universes don’t always work the same way. What happens when concepts like “master,” “slave,” and “service” are filtered through the Marketplace, Gor, Roissy, or other fictional universes? Laura will help separate fantasy from reality, discuss effective communication of roles, and explore how to borrow from fiction honestly while we craft our relationship styles. There’s good stuff in our fiction as well as bad – be prepared to laugh at the unrealistic expectations, smile at fond memories of our dearest inspirations, and grimace at how we can turn something we did as a lark for a few years into a colossal waste of time. (With a nod to Bill Shatner)
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